Chris
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Limped my poor broken jeep back on the trailer to take her home for some repairs
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Chris
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Tore my steering box off the frame and broke the mounts on my anti wrap bar. Guess I had to much fun.
Yesterday I witnessed some bad parenting and emotional abuse of a child. I was torn between intervening and just minding my own business. My friends are nice people but they do not know how to handle their kids. I don't have kids so I don't know what is normal behavior for kids necessarily, but I know what did not work with me as a child. These parents are so inconsistent with their 4-year-old and don't seem to get that he needs them to be patient. They swear around him and then tell him not to swear. They play fight in front of him and they lose their tempters and yell at him all the time. The mother has full on temper tantrums, yet the kid gets his ass beat if he has a tantrum. They even swear at him when telling him not to swear. They have always allowed him to swear in the past but he's about to start school so they are suddenly changing the rules on him and he's not grasping it.
So yesterday I was over at the house and the kid told me "I love you" when I walked in the room and was behaving ok. His parents were outside having a conversation about parenting techniques (well, more of an argument) with the grandfather (mother's father). They talked about the swearing. Before I excused myself from the argument, I pointed out that the kid would pay more heed to what they do rather than what they tell him and that it wasn't exactly fair to swear around him and then tell him he can't do it because it confuses him.
A few minutes later the kid was standing up looking at something and the grandfather walked in. He suddenly grabbed the kid and started beating his ass. He hit him at least 3 times before even saying why. He was chewing the kid out because he heard the kid had been swearing. The grandfather swears and he even swears in front of the kid. He kept hitting the kid while chewing him out about it and then went into the kitchen. The kid completely ignored him and didn't even react to being hit (and he was being hit relatively hard). I think I would have intervened if the kid had not just ignored it. A few minutes later the kid was sitting down and the grandfather came back in the room and started yelling at him that he didn't want to hear about him swearing again and smacked him in the head. If this is how he handled the kid's mother as a child I think I know why she has such a bad temper. The kid ignored him again and wouldn't even look at him until the grandfather ordered him to look at him and to respond. The kid just said "Ok" and went back to what he was doing.
The kid actually gets more upset about being told to go sit down or to go to his room. I know its not my place to tell my friends how to be parents, but man, that kid is going to be really messed up and confused if they don't deal with him calmly and consistently. I'm worried about this kid's future.
I mean, maybe he'll turn out ok despite that crap, but its frustrating to see that. The kid likes me because when he has tantrums I can calm him down by talking to him quietly and I try to be patient with him (although he can be extremely annoying).
I'm really not sure if I should say or do anything about what I saw. I did tell the parents about what the grandfather did (they weren't in the room to see it) and they were not happy about it, but I don't think they said anything to him about it.
And on another note, I can't remember if I mentioned this already, but the other day my jerkwad violent criminal neighbor intercepted another one of my packages and FedEx didn't even notify me that they'd given it to someone else and I didn't get it for a few days because the neighbor wouldn't just drop it off at my house (which is what he claimed he was going to do). He wanted an excuse to talk to someone from my household.
He was acting all friendly and saying he loves us and spouting some BS and saying we can call on him any time we want for help and stuff. The part of me that is forgiving and patient with people wants to believe the guy but my BS meter was going off and I just can't shake the feeling that he just wants something. He mentioned how he owed us a lot of money and that my father never once asked for the money or bothered him about it so he appreciated it. I do think he peppered some truth in with some BS when he was talking to me.
Anyway, it turns out that he wanted to know if we would be willing to trade our property and house (almost 32 acres with several structures and brand new septic system) for his tiny less than 5 acre lot with a small house, tiny barn, and a trailer because his son wanted more land. I don't think I was able to hide my WTF expression and he quickly said that it was his son's question and that he had told his son he didn't think we'd agree. I still couldn't help but wonder what planet he was from to even suggest such a thing. Seriously... The amount of damage that guy did to our property is more than the value of the property he wants to trade.
Now, I know what they want my land for-- I was told by people that while we were overseas he was using my land to grow marijuana. After we got back they kept trespassing and trying to get in to our back fields to mess with stuff and would steal things from our yard when we weren't home-- and they would come in the yard when they thought nobody was home and I would intercept them and they would make some excuses and leave. They are afraid of my dogs (especially my rottweiler) so they have a harder time sneaking in now.
Meanwhile, I'm about to look up the number for FedEx so I can gripe at them for giving my packages away to someone I have specifically told them to NOT give them to over 20 times now. I'm going to have to find some way to file a formal complaint. I do not want a violent criminal to have an excuse to come anywhere near my property and I want to make sure that I actually get my packages.
So yesterday I was over at the house and the kid told me "I love you" when I walked in the room and was behaving ok. His parents were outside having a conversation about parenting techniques (well, more of an argument) with the grandfather (mother's father). They talked about the swearing. Before I excused myself from the argument, I pointed out that the kid would pay more heed to what they do rather than what they tell him and that it wasn't exactly fair to swear around him and then tell him he can't do it because it confuses him.
A few minutes later the kid was standing up looking at something and the grandfather walked in. He suddenly grabbed the kid and started beating his ass. He hit him at least 3 times before even saying why. He was chewing the kid out because he heard the kid had been swearing. The grandfather swears and he even swears in front of the kid. He kept hitting the kid while chewing him out about it and then went into the kitchen. The kid completely ignored him and didn't even react to being hit (and he was being hit relatively hard). I think I would have intervened if the kid had not just ignored it. A few minutes later the kid was sitting down and the grandfather came back in the room and started yelling at him that he didn't want to hear about him swearing again and smacked him in the head. If this is how he handled the kid's mother as a child I think I know why she has such a bad temper. The kid ignored him again and wouldn't even look at him until the grandfather ordered him to look at him and to respond. The kid just said "Ok" and went back to what he was doing.
The kid actually gets more upset about being told to go sit down or to go to his room. I know its not my place to tell my friends how to be parents, but man, that kid is going to be really messed up and confused if they don't deal with him calmly and consistently. I'm worried about this kid's future.
I mean, maybe he'll turn out ok despite that crap, but its frustrating to see that. The kid likes me because when he has tantrums I can calm him down by talking to him quietly and I try to be patient with him (although he can be extremely annoying).
I'm really not sure if I should say or do anything about what I saw. I did tell the parents about what the grandfather did (they weren't in the room to see it) and they were not happy about it, but I don't think they said anything to him about it.
And on another note, I can't remember if I mentioned this already, but the other day my jerkwad violent criminal neighbor intercepted another one of my packages and FedEx didn't even notify me that they'd given it to someone else and I didn't get it for a few days because the neighbor wouldn't just drop it off at my house (which is what he claimed he was going to do). He wanted an excuse to talk to someone from my household.
He was acting all friendly and saying he loves us and spouting some BS and saying we can call on him any time we want for help and stuff. The part of me that is forgiving and patient with people wants to believe the guy but my BS meter was going off and I just can't shake the feeling that he just wants something. He mentioned how he owed us a lot of money and that my father never once asked for the money or bothered him about it so he appreciated it. I do think he peppered some truth in with some BS when he was talking to me.
Anyway, it turns out that he wanted to know if we would be willing to trade our property and house (almost 32 acres with several structures and brand new septic system) for his tiny less than 5 acre lot with a small house, tiny barn, and a trailer because his son wanted more land. I don't think I was able to hide my WTF expression and he quickly said that it was his son's question and that he had told his son he didn't think we'd agree. I still couldn't help but wonder what planet he was from to even suggest such a thing. Seriously... The amount of damage that guy did to our property is more than the value of the property he wants to trade.
Now, I know what they want my land for-- I was told by people that while we were overseas he was using my land to grow marijuana. After we got back they kept trespassing and trying to get in to our back fields to mess with stuff and would steal things from our yard when we weren't home-- and they would come in the yard when they thought nobody was home and I would intercept them and they would make some excuses and leave. They are afraid of my dogs (especially my rottweiler) so they have a harder time sneaking in now.
Meanwhile, I'm about to look up the number for FedEx so I can gripe at them for giving my packages away to someone I have specifically told them to NOT give them to over 20 times now. I'm going to have to find some way to file a formal complaint. I do not want a violent criminal to have an excuse to come anywhere near my property and I want to make sure that I actually get my packages.
Chris
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I also yesterday witnessed something similar. I was packing up my mountain house gettting ready to leave when I looked out my window and on the next dirt road there was two females fist fighting in the driveway and a young boy screaming and crying in the yard, then the girl that was doing the beating grabbed the kid and through him on the ground then drug him to her car and tossed him in and drove off then came back a few minutes later. I called the police and told them exactly what I saw and they said they would send someone out. About an hour and a half later he showed up and was at the house for maybe 20 seconds when he drove off. Never got out of his cop car and just talked to some guy who was outside. I guess this teaches me to report child abuse. They arent going to do anything anyway. I lost a lot of respect for the local cops up there.
I woke up in extreme back pain today, I think I am having problems with this very expensive memory foam mattress.
Chris
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I am now brewing some beer.
I am mildly jealous.
I am eating dinner, then I need to get back to work, starting timesheets, ordering material, etc.
I am eating dinner, then I need to get back to work, starting timesheets, ordering material, etc.
I did too, but mine is from lifting heavy stuff.
I love my memory foam. Best night's sleep I've ever had.
Chris
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I am getting rid of mine. Had it almost a year now and my back gets worse every night.
Today, we saw Mt. Rushmore, Crazy Horse, saw 1000 buffalos at Custer National Park, hiked around 4 lakes, toured Deadwood and Sturgis, etc. Tomorrow, we are driving quads about 50 miles into the back country. What a beautiful place. And yes, I'm looking at land to buy to build a house.
Austin, I hope your wife is doing ok.
Chris, sorry to hear about your back. It might not be the memory foam in general, but it could be the softness/hardness. You might need a mattress with a different firmness level.
I used to have a lot more back pain before I got a memory foam mattress (I got one for half price on overstock). I got about medium hardness. My previous mattress was a pillowtop and it started to flatten and was very uncomfortable. It put too much pressure on my hips and my back was always aching. The new mattress has proven to be much more comfortable.
It sucks that the cops didn't really do anything about the kid being abused. My mother said I should have called the cops on the grandfather hitting the kid, but quite frankly the cops would have told me to butt out. The school teachers have done far worse to the kids here (this is the area where a school teacher beat an entire class full of first grade children with a paddle because she was in a bad mood). She later became the principal of the middle school and hit kids with a paddle for minor stuff and sometimes things that were the fault of the parents.
I had a talk with the parents that were swearing in front of their kid and they were actively trying to not swear in front of him. The grandfather swore in front of him and I said something and at first he thought I said the kid was swearing and he started to yell and we all said "No" and he suddenly stopped and said "Wait, did I swear?" and then he started apologizing to the kid and asking him to forgive him. Now that the parents see how hard it is for them to stop swearing, they are not being so hard on the kid about it. And I talked to them about handling him calmly and they are trying to be more calm when interacting with him. So at least there is some progress.
Today I slept most of the day bc I felt exhausted and then I drove a friend (he has no car) to pick up a new phone. It rained excessively so my car got washed. It really needed it. But by tomorrow it will be covered in dirt again-- if it isn't already.
Chris, sorry to hear about your back. It might not be the memory foam in general, but it could be the softness/hardness. You might need a mattress with a different firmness level.
I used to have a lot more back pain before I got a memory foam mattress (I got one for half price on overstock). I got about medium hardness. My previous mattress was a pillowtop and it started to flatten and was very uncomfortable. It put too much pressure on my hips and my back was always aching. The new mattress has proven to be much more comfortable.
It sucks that the cops didn't really do anything about the kid being abused. My mother said I should have called the cops on the grandfather hitting the kid, but quite frankly the cops would have told me to butt out. The school teachers have done far worse to the kids here (this is the area where a school teacher beat an entire class full of first grade children with a paddle because she was in a bad mood). She later became the principal of the middle school and hit kids with a paddle for minor stuff and sometimes things that were the fault of the parents.
I had a talk with the parents that were swearing in front of their kid and they were actively trying to not swear in front of him. The grandfather swore in front of him and I said something and at first he thought I said the kid was swearing and he started to yell and we all said "No" and he suddenly stopped and said "Wait, did I swear?" and then he started apologizing to the kid and asking him to forgive him. Now that the parents see how hard it is for them to stop swearing, they are not being so hard on the kid about it. And I talked to them about handling him calmly and they are trying to be more calm when interacting with him. So at least there is some progress.
Today I slept most of the day bc I felt exhausted and then I drove a friend (he has no car) to pick up a new phone. It rained excessively so my car got washed. It really needed it. But by tomorrow it will be covered in dirt again-- if it isn't already.
Chris
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Can you put a down payment down for me too?
Today I taught my daughters that sometimes it's okay to say the f-word in public if you really need to get everybody's attention to relay an important message that is being ignored. Let's hope that I pay just as much attention to their important messages in the future. The lesson could really backfire on me.
I taught my Daughter something similar the other day.
She also started using my first name when I'm not paying attention. I'm fine with it, but my wife flipped out.
Sorry if don't hear a small child scream Dad in a crowd. I do hear Austin. Even in Texas it's not that common.
She also started using my first name when I'm not paying attention. I'm fine with it, but my wife flipped out.
Sorry if don't hear a small child scream Dad in a crowd. I do hear Austin. Even in Texas it's not that common.
Chris
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I just had my ac condenser motor start giving me a nasty squeal guess ill be looking for a new one soon.
havasu, have you looked at sites like zillow and trulia? They sometimes have listings of property for sale in areas (but they rely on real estate agents or sellers to update and say what is for sale). It can give the history of a house/property and when it was last sold and such.
Today I hit my arm just below my elbow on something and dropped the F-bomb. My mother shrieked at me "You don't say that!" and I said "yes I do-- all the time!" and then she proceeded to whine and have a spaz fit. I tuned her out when she hit a certain pitch. The sad thing is, if I say "Mom" to get her attention she ignores me. I can shout "Mom" and she won't answer. I whisper a swear word and she comes unglued. LOL.
Today I hit my arm just below my elbow on something and dropped the F-bomb. My mother shrieked at me "You don't say that!" and I said "yes I do-- all the time!" and then she proceeded to whine and have a spaz fit. I tuned her out when she hit a certain pitch. The sad thing is, if I say "Mom" to get her attention she ignores me. I can shout "Mom" and she won't answer. I whisper a swear word and she comes unglued. LOL.
I slept until 6pm today and even missed giving my dog her meds. The battery in my alarm clock corroded so it stopped working. I did wake up a few times during the day but was too exhausted to move so I basically just groaned and rolled over and when I finally had enough energy to move it was after 6pm. I forced myself to get up. I went to the store to get some stuff for my mother and came back home and ate. I'm up to almost 210lbs now so I really need to start moving around more. The fat is probably contributing to my fatigue.
I never heard back from FedEx about them giving packages to my neighbor, so I guess I need to contact them again.
I never heard back from FedEx about them giving packages to my neighbor, so I guess I need to contact them again.
